As look back over the years of my life, I must say I have come a long way. I have been told what I cannot do and what will not work throughout my life. I have been shamed by being told I was not good enough or pretty enough. I’ve been told I was getting “big” or “chubby” and struggling to try to lose weight and maintain a healthy lifestyle. I have been told my ideas are just that…ideas and will not amount to much. It took me a long time to be comfortable in my own skin and realizing who I was not only as a woman but as a person. People have certain expectations and perceptions of you and that is when fear, anxiety, and defeat can set in.
It has been said that when it comes to anxiety and fear, it is developed when we are trying to live for other people. It wasn’t until I got much older and had gone through a few obstacles in my life until I realized that that I cannot live for anyone else but myself. I had to understand that people, whether it be friends, family or doubters, do not know your truth and cannot live or run your life. The scars that you bare, you carry with you everyday, the outcomes, good, bad or indifferent, are your own. Lately, I have been treating life and some of the people in it as a challenge, the more you tell me I cannot do something or I’m not good at something, I strive to prove them wrong. No matter the situation I find myself in, I keep pressing on, believing in a cause, a cause to succeed and get the most out of life.
Just the other day, I found myself watching “Finding Dory” with my son, and by the end of it, I had tears in my eyes. Not because of the movie itself, but the messages. One of them was that in life, there is no plan on how to live, you just live it. As we know, life never goes according to plan and it seems like the most magic happens when its not. Another things is when someone tells you that something cannot be done, there is always another way. In other words, don’t allow fear, self doubt, or things others my say, get in the way of what you want to accomplish. Lastly, when fear tries to take over, say to your self “No matter what the obstacle, just keep swimming”. Keep going , push though, you will be amazed on how far you’ve come and what you can accomplish next. Always celebrate your successes in life, whether it be big or small, because you did it and you did it your way.